Anderson Cooper got it…well, halfway right.
Here’s the video, and this is in regards to that movie, “The Dilemna,”, which uses the term “So Gay” in the trailer. AC got it right in that the phrase should probably not be used, but I say it’s only half right in context. It’s the same thing with people using the n-word. If I’m black and I call another person the n-word, that’s not a problem. But I’m not, so I am not allowed to use it. Just like I’m “allowed” to call another Asian person the c-word or a FOB, but god help someone who’s NOT Asian who calls me or another Asian person that.
The L Word (in the pilot episode) actually uses the term “so gay,” but because the characters who use it ARE gay, that makes it “ok.” So the question I pose is, should there be any time when these terms, or rather, the way the term “so gay” is used, are ok? Or should they be completely stricken from our vocabulary. One other term in recent memory has undergone the striking out – “retarded” or “retard”. So it’s possible to get to the point where you can use “gay” to talk about someone’s identity, or the community, or as a political term, but where it would NOT be ok to say “that’s so gay.” Maybe this restriction in phrase should also apply to gay people, not just straight ones?